Masonic funeral services or ceremonies, are held at the request of a
departed Brother or his family. Masonic funeral services are usually
held at the funeral home, but they can be held at a church,
synagogue or Lodge room or any place chosen by the departed brother
or his family.
It is highly recommended that you put your wishes in writing giving a copy your immediate family, and then attach a copy to your will so that your desire is known.
Keep in mind that the trauma suffered by the survivors will affect their ability to think as clearly as they normally do. Widows are at a loss and their normal thinking process is usually clouded by the the big loss they have just suffered and the fear of their future security. Therefore putting important dates and memories on a written historical memo can aid them in remembering what was important when they need to remember it. It should be a simple memo listing your date and place of birth, names of brothers and sisters, marriages, number of children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, religious affiliation, favourite scriptures, hymns, songs, church offices held, occupation or vocation, social accomplishments, recognitions or awards, membership in fraternal or civic/service clubs, offices held, dates of military service, rank held and any major medals, citations or commendations earned, also any public offices held. By way of additional information, include such things as hobbies, and your accomplishments.
The historical memo can be read or passed out at the funeral, and will be comforting because its readers will get a better insight into the life of the person they have come to pay their respects to.